Husbands of Pastors Speak
Compiled by Larry Morris
Thursday, March 25, 2010
Husbands share the following thoughts and issues facing them when their wives are the pastors:

  • I find it difficult to understand my place in the role of pastor's husband.

  • My job prospects, earning potential, and sense of accomplishment are greatly diminished because of the lack of career opportunities for me in the location God has called us to minister.

  • My wife earns more than I do. This is difficult for me to accept and redefines my understanding of my role as the provider.

  • My wife must deal with some very difficult situations and my understanding of myself as her protector causes me to want to shield her and try to carry those burdens.

  • I feel the church and the community sees me differently. I sense a lack of recognition or affirmation.

  • There are no resources or structured ways to help me connect with others for encouragement, affirmation, or to just talk.

  • The church expects me to be willing and capable of doing maintenance, remodeling, and building repairs.

  • The church views the role of the pastor's spouse through traditional eyes.

  • I feel out of place at pastors and spouse events (i.e. retreats, district dinners, denominational meetings) especially when the wives have a separate event or meeting than the pastors.

  • I feel a strong responsibility to house my family and the uncertainty of living in a parsonage and the possibility of homelessness is a concern.
-Compiled by Larry Morris, adult ministries director for Sunday School and Discipleship Ministries International.
 
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